THOUGHTS OF A SOMALI GIRL

Can I have your daughter for the rest of my life? Say yes, say yes Cuz I need to know You say I'll never get your blessing 'till the day I die Tough luck my friend, but the answer is no! -"Rude", Magic Sound like your situation?  *Sigh*  The abuse of wali/guardian power. What a huge issue in the Muslim community. Many fathers reject a potential husband for their daughter for reasons like he's not of the same ethnic or racial background, he's not educated enough, he's not rich, etc. Serious ridiculousness. One of the duties of a Muslim father is to make sure that his daughter(s) get married to a suitable God-fearing man.  "The Messenger of Allah said: "When someone whose religion and character you are pleased with come to you, then marry [her to] him. If you do not do so, then there will be turmoil (Fitnah) in the land and discord (Fasad). If you do not do so, then there will be turmoil (Fitnah) in the land and disc...

Hi everyone! Sorry it's taken me so long to post this but it's finally here :) The following is a bunch of things I've put together on finding your way when struggling with your faith. I'm not an expert but the following is what has helped me and what I've learned from those who are knowledgeable. I'd like to share this so that I can help other Muslims. It may also be helpful to non-Muslims who are also on a spiritual journey. 1. Talk to God I think the first thing one should do whilst in the middle of a "spiritual crisis" is to talk to God. He sees and hears all. He knows your deepest secrets. You have to sincerely ask Him to open your heart and guide you to the straight path. Make constant dua (your personal prayers to God), He hears them all: It's easy to make dua. Raise your hands up and ask away.  "And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad], concerning Me - indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supp...

I must say that there's a bit of an ajanabi (non-Somali) craze going on these days especially among the girls. It's quite prevalent among many masaajid girls. Once a white man converts to Islam and becomes a regular in the masaajid (mosque) they're all over him! This bothers me. In addition, there a lot of stories going around about Somali girls who have been divorced by their ajanabi husbands; the parents like to say this happened because the husband wasn't Somali.  Now, before y'all start the accusations, let me inform you that I am not an ajanabi hater. Neither am I a person who strictly stays with their "own kind"; race and/or culture is of no concern to me. Rather, this post is my sincere advice to my abaayo, my sister in kinship, or even to any other non-Somali woman, who is about to marry or is interested in someone who is ajanabi. My advise is based on the experiences of others and myself. So. About to marry an ajanabi? Interested in ...