THOUGHTS OF A SOMALI GIRL

I must say that there's a bit of an ajanabi (non-Somali) craze going on these days especially among the girls. It's quite prevalent among many masaajid girls. Once a white man converts to Islam and becomes a regular in the masaajid (mosque) they're all over him! This bothers me. In addition, there a lot of stories going around about Somali girls who have been divorced by their ajanabi husbands; the parents like to say this happened because the husband wasn't Somali.  Now, before y'all start the accusations, let me inform you that I am not an ajanabi hater. Neither am I a person who strictly stays with their "own kind"; race and/or culture is of no concern to me. Rather, this post is my sincere advice to my abaayo, my sister in kinship, or even to any other non-Somali woman, who is about to marry or is interested in someone who is ajanabi. My advise is based on the experiences of others and myself. So. About to marry an ajanabi? Interested in

Hello everyone! Or Assalamualaikum (peace be upon you)! I'm back woohoo! This blog ain't dead - yet. Hopefully, I never give up on this, I really enjoying posting and I've noticed I'm getting quite the views :) And the best feeling is getting comments! Thank-you, keep those comments coming - whether they're negative or positive - I love to read them :) I'm going to share a short personal story today. The story I'd like to share today is my spiritual journey. We all think about religion and our purpose in life at some point in our lives; it's part of human nature. We begin to question a lot of things even if you are raised in a religious household. I was raised in a semi-religious Muslim household. And there came a time in my life where I began to struggle with my faith in Islam. Eventually, I even began to struggle in my faith in God. I became agnostic for a while. Did I just say that I was agnostic? A Muslim saying that she was agnostic? A&#

So what is it with the majority of Somalis and wedding crashing? Now, let me first make it clear that I'm not saying wedding crashing is also not common among the males, but I'm talking about the females because I'm a female and the majority of Somali weddings I have attended are segregated. Wedding crashers extremely annoy me. There are a lot of girls who actually attend a wedding every weekend and they do not even personally know the couple getting married. Neither were they invited. They just want an excuse to get dressed up, eat free food (who doesn't love free food though?), and have fun. For many of these girls, crashing weddings is similar to the act of simply going out on a Saturday night.  Wedding crasher, you are despicable and annoying. "But I'm harmless!" you say. No, you aren't. Allow me to enlighten you. You ruin the experience of guests who were invited to celebrate the marriage of a couple - which is supposed to be a happy day o

Still from her "We Can't Stop" music video I'm just tired of hearing all the hate on Miley Cyrus. People have been hating on her for a while now but it got even worse after her performance at the VMAs. First of all, I don't watch the VMAs, Oscars or whatever (because there are better things that I'd rather watch....like Criminal Minds or Game of Thrones!) unless I happen to be channel surfing and I come upon it. Then I'm gone when the commercial break comes on. So that's how I came to see Miley's performance. I will admit it; I found myself involuntarily covering my mouth in shock. My eyes were practically about to pop out of their sockets. I was very surprised because I didn't expect her to be acting like that mainly because she was a child star (sorry Miley but that's going to follow you forever) And I do think the whole sticking out the tongue and twerking on Robin Thicke was too much and unnecessary. And the nudity in her new mus

The number of Somali teenaged boys getting into the life of crime has increased significantly over the past few years. It is now a huge problem in the Somali community. I wanted to share my thoughts on possible solutions to this problem. I think the key are the parents (yes, I know this is a criticism of parents again but I'm not a Somali parent hater!). They are an important part of the causes and the solutions to this problem. An even bigger part of the problem and solution are these boys themselves. God gives people the ability to think. He also gives them common sense. My thoughts: Parents should acknowledge their son is troubled. I noticed that a majority of the mothers of these boys are in serious denial about the behaviour of their sons. It‘s frustrating to hear them go on about what "good boys" their sons are and how "smart" they are in school. Habaryar macaan! If he was such a good boy, habaryar, he would be helping you at home and staying out